I wanted to talk a little about what I call the “The Uncoachables.” Now as a coach most people are willing to listen to the things I have to say when it comes to learning how to axe throw and I can get people to hit that target and feel good about it within a few tries. However, sometimes I am met with people that don’t like to listen and want to do their own thing.
All the power to you my friend if you can throw axes without my help. I love it when I come across people that have a natural talent for the sport. Then there are people that have a lot of difficulty with the sport. My job as a coach is to help you if it is difficult and make the experience enjoyable for everyone. I say for everyone for a specific reason.
Have you ever been to a party where everyone is having an amazing time except for the one person that isn’t? Sometimes it can ruin the experience for everyone. The last thing I want is for a group to have negative experience because someone didn’t enjoy their time.
Well same concept. My coaches ask me all the time, “how do you help someone that doesn’t want your help?” The simple answer that no one likes to hear is. You don’t. We as coaches can only do so much and believe me. WE WANT TO HELP! But if you don’t let us then there is nothing we can do.
My piece of advice is to simply give the individual their space and pop in and out to make “Suggestions.” I know from experience I don’t like being told what to do but my piece to everyone out there reading this is to give your coach a chance to help. Bad coaching is a different story but when you have a genuinely good coach that wants to help don’t push them away.
I wish I could speak about the number of times I have wanted to help someone that just refused to listen to anything I had to say. When I first started the job, I used to take everything personally but as time progressed, I learned new tricks to help with things like this. Morale of the story is this. Staying open to knowledge is always good especially when you are trying to learn how to do something that isn’t as easy as they make it look in movies. Being open minded to anything anyone has to say, especially a professional at that, would be beneficial to anyone.
No one should ever be embarrassed to ask for help or even ask a question. Confucius said it best, “The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask a question is a fool for life”.
Stay tuned for next week. My name is Adrian and I hope you enjoyed reading my Life as an Axe Coach.